Wednesday, March 7, 2012

Waiting, waiting, and needing to acquire patience

So it's been 7 weeks since my accident and 6 weeks since my surgery.  I was supposed to have a doctor's appointment March 6th to determine if I was allowed to stand again. The day before my appointment I was called by my surgeons office explaining that my surgeon had had an emergency and would be out of the office all week. So my appointment was reset for March 15th and I was instructed to remain in the wheelchair per doctor's orders until my appointment to have the next set of x-rays.  I was incredibly disappointed and very upset at the news.  I have been going out of my mind being stuck inside the house and unable to do very much.  So the news was hard to take.  I called Josh to tell him that he wouldn't have to take time off work to take me to the appointment since it was canceled. He was disappointed at the news as well since it sets us back in several areas.  But we couldn't do anything about it.

A couple hours later, my sweet husband called me to tell me that he was actually going to still take the afternoon off and he was going to whisk (actually wheel) me away to Disney World to cheer me up and get me out of the house.  I was very excited and decided that Epcot would be fun to go to since the Flower Garden Festival was going. The weather was absolutely perfect, in the low 70's and sunny outside. In the shade, the breeze was even chilly.  So it was perfect to be outside.  The afternoon was wonderful and very needed.  Since my accident, Josh and I hadn't had a date or done anything fun together. Spending the afternoon flirting with my husband as we went through all the countries in Epcot made me feel a bit back to normal and though I was exhausted afterwards, I felt so refreshed.  I'm so lucky to be married to someone who takes care of me so well.  :-)

In other family news, a couple of weeks after I was hurt,  my new little niece Julia Grace Flowers was born. :-)  We weren't able to go up and see her right away, but we are planning to travel up to see her dedication March 25th.  I can't wait to finally meet her! From her pictures, she looks completely different than my nephew Carson did when he was born.  She is definately a little princess and my sister-in-law dresses her up with little bows.  Its adorable. :-)  Christmas this year will be so much fun with two little ones in the family.

One of the things I've learned through this waiting period, is that patience is not easily gained.  I've always known I'm not a patient person (I generally end up giving Josh is birthday gift early cause I just can't wait, lol) but I've learned there are varying degrees of patience.  My mother-in-law recently told me about a lady she knows that had her home burn down, losing all her things, including her dog. She was trying to encourage me that things can always be worse and that this time would eventually pass for me whereas for others, there are some things that will not pass.  I try to live my life with a thankful attitude, but I've learned that being thankful simply isn't always enough.  The ability to endure and lean on patience is what gets you through a hard situation.  Throughout this experience, I haven't lived up to my name and acted with grace always.  Its been a difficult, frustrating, painful, and discouraging time for me.  I've relied heavily on the blessings God has surrounded me with. The smile of my husband, the strength of Josh's nearby hand to steady me before I fall as I hop to reach something, the "sanity gifts" and surprise packages in the mail from Jay and Betty, and God's provision over our finances and insurance. These things remind me daily that I am cared about and watched over. Its an amazing comfort when independence and self sufficiency are temporarily removed. But they are humbling as well, as they serve as reminders that I have many reasons to act with grace- even in the tough times.  And its something I am striving to do better this year.  I guess its a late "new years resolution" but better late than never, right? :-)